Reclaiming your boundaries: healing after narcissistic abuse
After leaving a narcissistic relationship, healing from the abuse and trauma takes time. As you prepare to seek new relationships, it's common to experience post-traumatic stress. Learning to set healthy boundaries and recognizing red flags *before* committing can prevent a repeat of past patterns, guiding you towards safer, more fulfilling connections.
Recognizing red flags & setting your pace
Be aware of 'love bombing' – excessive gifts or pressure for intimacy early on. If a new partner rushes things before you truly know them, that's a significant red flag. It's perfectly okay to say no and set a boundary, taking the time you need to learn to trust again and feel comfortable with that person.
Overcoming fears: trust & self-love
A common fear is trusting again, as the person you were before the abuse has likely changed due to gaslighting, manipulation, deception, and infidelity. It's crucial to acknowledge this, practice self-love, and recognize that saying 'no' is a powerful act of self-care. It's important to be kind to yourself.
Building your support system
Surround yourself with family and friends who have consistently shown they have your best interests at heart. When encountering new relationships, remember that potential partners need to demonstrate their true intentions over time. It's always okay to take things slow and observe how they treat you.